Sunday, July 28, 2013

Keep me posted

Swaddled with your presence 
After you've left
I peacefully located

Under the sheet of green moss
Carved in stone

A river of fast running water
Sparkled by your vivacity

My heart in turmoil
A note to  protract  

Keep me posted
For real

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Three









  • If  I’m the exception and the rest are the rule is your daily mantra, you are resolute to survive the industry.

  • I shall never be happy again.   That entirely depends on your definition of NEVER.

  • Stay in your own business. That’s the ultimate place to stand in good stead.

Monday, July 8, 2013

Trains to Machu Picchu


Tourists have the option to travel super-deluxe, dining the full menu and enjoying the local wines with Hiram Bingham; middle class Vistadome offering complementary snacks or the less expensive Expedition with snacks for sale. The last option and most economic option is to take the shuttle from Ollantaytambo to Machu Picchu. All trains and shuttles have perplexed roof windows to heighten the panoramic view.  





Travellers using the shuttles are mainly backpackers with wrinkled clothes, unshaven, happy faces and electronic devices. They check with regular intervals whether the passport and wallet are still in the front pockets, count money, make small talk and share where meals are inexpensive, what markets have the best bargains and which museums are a must see. 

Pisac has spectacular ruins overlooking the Sacred Valley and has the most famous market on Sundays. Thermal baths at Aguas Calientes attract many visitors and offer revitalizing minerals especially for tired, blistered feet. Underlying the trading of new knowledge single backpackers hope for an invite to assimilate and reduce the chances of getting lost. They might have a conversation going by the next stop or ending up with the silent treatment.

Finding the free Wi-Fi spot is without doubt the euphoria of the day and status updates make the backpackers' Twitter and Facebook friends with or without envy, dedicated followers. This is also the time when online banking happens and the tour budget might get a boost from savings. 

On the shuttle, room is limited and the legs from those who didn’t get to put their backpacks in the triangle between the seats are dealing with dead weight. 

In the enclosed space with sleep-deprived bodies that press every Soles value out for the experience of a lifetime, are the readers. The world passes them as they read novels, absorbed by the character’s quest. That is to some extend inexcusable. 

John notices a traveller studying the book on How to make the best out of Traveling Peru. One traveler’s frown is another man’s smile.  He Tweet this and in minutes the astonished John’s Twitter gets a thousand hits. “Some-one is reading about the Sacred Valley, looking at the photos in the book rather than the real thing?” “You’re kidding me.” “Ask whether the reader are willing to use my sofa while I take the seat on the train!” 

How one can read about the tropical mountain while travelling is incomprehensible; missing the scenery where the inspiration for Indiana Jones series originated, unthinkable.   

Whether it happens by luxurious or economic means, the artistry of nature in glorious colours, the grandeur of an ancient Inca civilization, talking broken Spanish to natives and mingling with citizens of the world is a gift of the present time. Resist from falling behind. 

The turquoise Vilcanota River to the left of the train tracks and to the right towering mountains with rocks having the outward appearance of heads, imposing. 

                      Any train to the tropical mountain forest is a good train.
                         Closing the travel guide or novel an excellent option.
                                Don't forget to chew on the Cacao leafs.
                                 The altitude is high and so is the ecstasy.  

Movement





                                                           Can't is a rock
                                                           
                                                          Have to a chain
                                  
                                                        Should have a cliff

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Teaching Empathy through Human Connection - Holocaust

A recent email stating that Irena Sendler (Verified by Snopes) saved infants from being killed in the Holocaust in Germany during WWII brought new attention to the Holocaust and victims. According to the email and article, she didn't win the Nobel Peace Prize that year. 

Regardless of the views on who should win a prize for doing the right thing, Irena did the right thing, sanctity of life was her primary concern and made a bigger impact on society that she could have ever imagined. 


An exceptional history school teacher used the Holocaust to teach a set of life skills: Empathy & Standing up for basic Human Rights. 

The teacher gave each pupil a sheet with a picture and history of a specific child that was a part of the Holocaust. Their assignment was to write a tribute to the child. Not only did this bring a fresh and emotionally gripping experience to the classroom, but also impressed an obligation upon the children. 

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights according to the UN provides a basis on which societies can build on. But who enforce these rights? It seems that governments have a responsibility to protect their citizens, and citizens in turn have the responsibility to contribute to the community. 

In theory this task seems pretty easy and simplistic. "We learn from history that we do not learn from history" Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel. 


Common password reminders in our technological age refer to a childhood friend, a cousin, a sister...people who matter to us. We remember them and thus open a gateway to our own information. Consider then the truly remarkable impact that the Holocaust exercise had on the young minds of the future. 

When they are faced with political situations that compromise basic human rights, they will remember the names of the children who suffered, as if they were a childhood friend, a cousin, a sister... people who matter. 



Holocaust Remembered


Sunday, May 19, 2013

GENERATION BOOMERANG - Are you ready?


On average parents are in their mid to late forties when children start their higher education. By the time young adults finish their university or college education, parents will be in the phase of planning for their (early) retirement. 

According to Jordan Weismann 61% college-educated 18-34-year-old made it back home. Household debts get organized by what the household owns and not by the individuals. Debts declined for this group with a 22% drop. (www.pewsocialtrends.org)

Reportedly young adults after the recession have fewer cars, fewer homes and less debt. The question arises of who takes care of their travel needs, living costs and minimum payments?

The value obtained by dividing the sum of a set of quantities by the number of quantities in the set is called the average. Joint households are often challenged on every conceivable level. Quantities of emotions, wins and loss, change of plans, the equitable distribution among those concerned, expenses or charges paid by the homeowner to name just a few.

Young adults are in the phase of engaging into meaningful relationships, often having nesting and parenting of the next generation in mind. Dating is an important part of their lives and having a place to hang out of great importance. It can become extremely expensive to meet at coffee shops or places of entertainment ALL THE TIME.  However, bringing the date home can be challenging on a whole different level.

Parents are mid-life crisis inclined. Lay-offs and fortuitous pension plans, inflation and living expenses are stresses that they deal with and can’t be overlooked or undervalued.

Relationships get a new dimension when there is an audience. A history of divorce or unhappily married life is best dealt with in private. However, the young adult’s presence provides the parent with the opportunity to go public. The young adult can easily be drawn into separate hearings of both parent’s complaints and imperfections, not to be quoted. Having to side with one against the other is tormenting.

The young adult’s behavior can also lead to the parent’s unhappiness or private conversations.  For a parent to detach from parenting role is challenging and doesn’t happen unpremeditated. To advise, inform and correct happens instinctively, but is uncalled for in this situation. The young adult proved that s/he mastered some decision-making skills by graduating in absence of parents (with or without the financial backup from said parents). When the parent shows doubt, it has an effect on the already bruised by moving back ego. While both the young adult and parent have to recoup of a status of independence, the process of getting there can be confusing and painful.

Expectations while living under the same roof are dynamic and supported by changing circumstances. What worked today might not work tomorrow and requires some openness and flexibility. However, leaving the laundry on Monday in the tumble dryer, knowing that Wednesday is usually the parent’s day for washing isn’t a good idea.  Plan to remove the washing right away – finish what you started.

When the parents work 24/7 and the young adult has free time, the grass is cut every Wednesday without a reminder.  If the young adult works 24/7 - often for minimum payments - and the parent has free time, the grass is cut without blaming the young adult for not making time for that.  When the young adult or parent’s circumstances change, so does the expectations of household chores. Anyone is free to cut the grass or shovel the snow out of the driveway.

When the kitchen or bathrooms needs attention, the dustbins are to be emptied or the windows can do with a wipe, do it without fearing that this might become a habit.   And when the milk, toilet paper or Windex are low, pick some up at the store.

Saying this, every household has different characters with different roles. Some are savers and some are spenders. The saver will always wait for the spender to get frustrated and go to the store and bail them out. Everyday household items can be placed on a tab and divided by the number of people, but if budgets are tight, the buying of Windex instead of using lemon juice and water can be a bone of contention.

The next set of roles is drowning and rescuers.  No one in a healthy household is obliged to rescue anyone, especially when a group of adults live together under one roof. Rethinking the parent-child, child-parent role could greatly assist in the person’s ability to make a contribution to the world. Aim to work together as adults.

Focusing on each other’s strengths and emotional intelligence brings a wholesome set of values to negotiate from.

What becomes clear is that the situation can be as complex as the family makes it.

Some basic rules/tips can make this transition sizable.

·               Be fair and generous
·               Be gentle and respectful
·               Contribute rather than demand
·               Focus on strengths and capabilities
·               Be flexible and approachable
·               Define the house as a place where adults can create and heal, nourish, relax and work
·               Be honest and genuine
·               Put the toys away

The man with the toothache thinks everyone is happy whose teeth are sound. (George Bernard Shaw) 

You will be surprised how many people are in need of a dentist.


Photo by Marius Calitz

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mother's day!

the word MOTHER
umbrellas the widest range
of emotions
and actions -

Happy Mother's day to all
And - Thank you -



Saturday, April 20, 2013

Tip for travelling

travel light
and
light will follow you.


Chirp-cheer Tip-Tol


                                                         "I beat the heat!"

Pastries


In her village Rebecca is known as a healer.  She lives a simple life and at the age of twenty-one she gives birth to an exceptional child. Since the day the exceptional child was born the ancestors wake up the grandfather when he is asleep and speak the same words over and over.  Ten years pass before Rebecca’s parents have the courage to prompt her to leave the remote village, taking the exceptional child with.  They promise her treasures to trade for a room and food until she can find a job and ensure the best education for her exceptional child.

One month later Rebecca and her exceptional child’s bags are packed and the elderly couple calls for the village to invoke divine favor upon them. The night fills with many narratives and recollections to their own, each villager serving Rebecca and her exceptional child with homegrown wisdom.

Living on the outskirts of the remote village is the only writer who hands Rebecca an envelope with an address on for this will be their solely link to past connections. Once Rebecca has a place she must find another writer and send word on the exceptional child’s progress.

Past midnight Rebecca’s childhood friend takes her hand and leads her to the well-known haven for a sleep over. They recall times together, finding the queen of ants and causing havoc when they ran away to spend time on the banks of the river, planning their future. At cockcrow and many herbal teas later Rebecca rises above her doubts and fears, takes her bags, the exceptional child and leaves with a promise to render homage and gratitude in a years time.

Things turn out to be quite expensive in the far-from-home town and Rebecca realizes that the treasures will not trade for much longer than a month. She frantically searches for a descent job and in the nick of time Rebecca gets one at a local store to pay for the nice room with a wood-burning stove close to the exceptional child’s school.

The job has its challenges, but Rebecca keeps her spirits high and works eight to five. A couple of weeks later she knows every customer’s preferences and as some share their personal matters with the healer the store for them become a lucky break. To tell the truth, Rebecca enjoys the heightened action her life journey takes her on. Enshrined between her hips is the quest for getting to know the world apart from the village.

However, when it comes to payday the merchant starts giving Rebecca stale or expired products and deducts random amounts from her wages. He is either a day late or a day’s work short. Rebecca monuments to courage and asks the merchant the just behind this unfair dealings. The merchant assures her that she will get back the moneys he owes her as soon as business picks up. This doesn’t make sense for the store has as far as Rebecca can tell a good turnover and unhappiness grows in her talk.
Getting another job is an option, but the jam is to approach the other merchants without stirring.  At least she has some kind of an income. Without moneys her exceptional child will have to give up the dream to rise in this world and she will face the village’s tongue-lash for treasures woefully wasted.

Her childhood friend often visits her at night, but comes daybreak the dreams are forsaken guises. If only Rebecca could look into the eyes and speak into the ears of her childhood friend.  

In the evenings she cooks proper meals, often using recipes from her village where nothing beats the smell of home to conquer their deep longing for the village people’s closeness. Sometimes her exceptional child takes Rebecca’s bony hands and Rebecca then feels the question that weighs down the exceptional child’s shoulders, but she also realizes that neither of them will know what to do once the answer to the question is known.

On the first Monday of the third month of their staying in the far-from-home town Rebecca walks her exceptional child to school and then makes a left turn towards the store. She finds the store emptied from the inside, like vultures feasted on a carcass overnight. 

Troubled she knocks at the door, but no one is there to answer her call. The cobbler next-door finds Rebecca on the doorstep and hands her a few envelopes that the merchant left behind. Upon request he reads the letter from the only writer sharing the news of her childhood friend’s illness. Rebecca’s hand goes to her chest to slow down the wild drumming of her heart. In the next envelope is a notice that her job has been terminated, but without moneys. In disbelieve the cobbler urges her not to allow the unjust and hands her the name of an elder that might be able to help her in this regard. Even though suppressed, her calling to heal probes her into exploring the reasons for the unworthy treatment.  

The well-versed elder listens to the troublesome circumstance that she has worked under and agrees to assist her in writing a letter to the runaway merchant. The well-versed elder explains to Rebecca that this might take some time with no guarantee for a favorable outcome. Back home Rebecca hides the letters under her mattress and cooks rice to eat with the leftover chicken.

By the end of the month and because Rebecca hasn’t received word from the well-versed elder, she shares her despair with her exceptional child. After a long to an fro they decide rather than making a shameful return to their village they will approach the landlord and trade their time and willingness to clean the premise until Rebecca finds another job. The landlord agrees on his terms and as the days go by the list of chores grows. Rebecca and after school her exceptional child work relentlessly to secure their room. When dying of thirst one cannot refuse water says the exceptional child and waters the bedding.

A month later Rebecca receives a letter from the well-versed elder and takes this to the landlord. According to the well-versed elder he had to go through a lot of trouble and travels to deliver Rebecca’s letter that was not well received. Anger wells up in her. Not only is she without moneys and a job, but also their welfare is at stake and the prospect of visiting her sick childhood friend set aside. The well-versed elder writes that Rebecca in fact owes the merchant moneys for expensive products that he allegedly treated her and the exceptional child with.  For the inconvenience and trouble dealing with the merchant, the well-versed elder attaches his bill.

Framed by the window on the glass that Rebecca sponges is her face. She voices her disbelieve to her reflection. How did this happen? One person wronged her and now she is kept accountable for many claims against her.  Was that unsuited of her to attempt proving righteousness by pointing in the erroneously direction? The bucket on the top of the ladder wiggles when Rebecca descents. Is her taking action against her debtor as immoral as him withholding her moneys?

Appalled by the desperate situation she asks the landlord for a day off. Rebecca needs time to go around and look for a job, but the landlord doesn’t find her reasoning appropriate. Since when is the leftover vegetables from his kitchen and the generous offer to free boarding not enough? 

Market day is on a Wednesday and when the landlord finally sends Rebecca to pick up some bulbs to grow in the garden, she uses the opportunity to ask around for work. A regular that used to buy cat food from the store where she worked overhears the conversation and pulls Rebecca aside.  They converse in light talk before she enquires about Rebecca’s availability.   The regular gets them tea in plastic cups and bread on sticks to enjoy under the weathered umbrellas. The regular has a kindness to her that reminds Rebecca of the sweet smell when walking past an orange tree in blossom. She inhales the lightness of the air as she walks home with a hand drawn map, a bus ticket and a twain promise of a job.

That evening the exceptional child brings home a box with the finest pastries. After the scanty meal that consists mainly out of pumpkin, they sit next to the wood-burning stove and at first heedful try the ambrosia before enjoying the culinary perfection to the last crumb. Rebecca doesn’t ask where the exceptional child got this from and the exceptional child befittingly avoids from spilling the truth.

The bus stops in an adorable neighborhood where the houses wear red hats and embroider on the apron-gardens are daisies and roses. Inside the home of the regular needle workers pin, cut and sew colorful fabrics into dresses. Rebecca soaks in the restoring atmosphere circling above the cheerful critter-clatter of the needle workers.  If only she could earn enough to purchase one of the dresses for her childhood friend, her neck will hold up her head. The days to come resemble the comfort of her village. She listens to the needle workers’ narratives and takes their advice on how to deal with unfortunate incidents. When Rebecca takes the bus home and despite of her fatigue she feels strong and alleviated from the heft that thins her breathing.

One evening her exceptional child meets Rebecca at the bus stop and can hardly wait to read the letters that came in the mail out loud. The first letter is from the well-versed elder who informs Rebecca that the merchant fell sick due to her enquiry and has added the medical costs as well as escalating interest to the bill. Rebecca now owes them double the amount they first claimed from her. The second letter is without word from the writer; it has a green feather from a wild goose inside. Falling with her face in the dirt, Rebecca outcries her misfortune. Her childhood friend must have crossed the river.   The exceptional child helps her onto her feet and walks her home, the third letter from the school crammed for later.

Rebecca attends the year-end concert where the exceptional child gets an award for outstanding achievement. Braced by passion the headmaster announces the exceptional child’s all expenses paid placement in the School of Chefs, located in the Capital City some two hundred miles away. Rebecca wishes the elderly couple to see her standing between the treasures to trade from her remote village as the exceptional child accepts the praise.

The day after Rebecca pays the regular for a dress to bury her childhood friend in, but fails to catch the last bus home. From inside the red hat houses the yellow lights linger on the spicy smells eventually escaping from the chimneys.   The streets are deserted and the wind instruments temperatures dropping below freezing.  Rebecca keeps walking until her feet make a defiant stand in the alley between the garbage bins. She takes the dress for the childhood friend’s burial out and pulls that over her head while admitting to the soul dark night that she placed her healing in escrow and forfeited a world unknown.

After graduation in the Capitol City the exceptional child finds the way back to remote village where the only writer that lived on the outskirts of the village crossed the river after being bitten by a venomous snake many years ago.  The elderly couple that has grown in years calls for the village’s people to receive the exceptional child back.

That night the childhood friend takes the exceptional child by the hand and together they walk to the bank of the river.  The exceptional child listens to the childhood friend’s miraculous healing after one night Rebecca showed her where the wild geese were nesting.

Drifting on the water and attached to a piece of wood is the feather that the childhood friend sent Rebecca in an envelope without a letter some years ago.


The wind carries the message in its pockets; the fragrance of an orange tree in blossom wreathes upon them as they let go of the healer. The voices of the ancestors die down.



Photograph courtesy of Chris Photography

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Clever answers.

Psychology 101.

* Is the glass half full or half empty?

The students vote - 60%  the glass half full.
                              - 39% the glass as half empty.
                                - 1% has a counter plead:

FIRST I NEED TO KNOW WHAT'S IN THE GLASS.

* Everyone takes him for a ride.

The students asses:
                           -  Low self esteem.
                             - Poor decision making skills.
                               - Lack of proper support.

CONSIDER TO GET YOUR OWN VEHICLE.

* Dance to the music.
                           - A waltz is 3/3 a tango 2/4-4/4.
                             - Life has its challenges.
                               - Check out the latest on I-tunes.

I HOPE YOU CAN DANCE REALLY WELL.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Family Day



What an extraordinary family with a world of travels, compassion and narratives embedded in our hearts.
You mean more to me than you can ever imagine.
My goodwill and spirit carry you over uneven pathways.
 Your hands reach out to pull me back - to hear, feel and see the blithe of life.
Our zestful demeanour conjures up fulfillment and magnetizes laughter.
 Joyfully we walk the extra mile.

We hereby propose a toast:
To entrusted partners for entranced safekeeping of our labyrinth -

HAPPY FAMILY DAY!


Friday, February 15, 2013

Philosophy


The Professor of Philosophy takes his time to formulate two questions for the final examination.

Question 1. Identity theft.
Question 2. The hole is too deep to dig myself out.

Eagerly he pages through the essays at the end of the exam period.
One student has little to say.

Answer 1. Dear Ingenious Thief. I consider myself one lucky guy that you of all people found my frivolous identity online. I die to know how that works for you. 

Answer 2. Professor, keep digging and you might strike oil.

This final year student scored 100%.

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Treasure hunting with Cupid



Look at Cupid!  See how he holds a bow in arrow in his hands? The well-known figure sets us up for treasure hunting on Valentine’s Day.

Native to South Africa is the arum lily, known for its pure white nature and yellow splendid. The wild growing lilies known as pig’s ears in African valleys has been cultivated in Britain and Ireland as Easter lilies and is the national flower of Saint Helena. The Green Goddess, Red Desire and Pink Mist are variations to the arrow shaped white lilies. Finding a freshly cut bunch of lilies in Catherine Wright Designs, one of Cupid’s arrows sure hits the target.
















Beware the one who ends up without a box of chocolates on treasure hunting Valentine’s Day! In the heart of Stratford downtown Rheo Thompson Candies offers a wide selection of richly flavored chocolates in exquisite gift boxes and beautifully gift-wrapped.






For the special, unpredictable moment Cupid always saves an arrow. Inside every wallet, between the plastic cards and coins one often finds a memory – a picture that captures every moment that adds up to this treasure hunting for love day. A picture that inspires and reminds, a picture that says Cupid is here to stay.

Happy Valentine’s Day!


Wednesday, February 13, 2013

February


Natural Ice Art
The heart of February is snow white against the barren blackened trunks of the leafless winter. Weather forecasts rapidly change from clear skies to whiteouts with sheets of black ice on pavements and roads. Contrary to desire snowfalls from unconformable clouds leave front doors stuck and windows gilded with iced mosaic.

Temperatures festoon between record lows and health care providers guard the escalating conditions of winter victims feeling sad or despondent. Winter has the dramatic quality of a ballade, offering an array of colors, forms, and movements with a high quality of execution.

The month of February is an interactive theater, a snow-white against the barren black open gallery without an entrance fee.